Be your own therapist

Hello hello hello!

Hope your day is off to a great start! I have to say, my favorite part of the day is my bike ride home from my gym. Typically it’s at about 7 am. I’ve just had a great workout, saw my friends, and am on my way home to eat breakfast, my favorite meal of the day, hands down!


Crispy eggs sauteed in bacon fat, chicken sausage, and kale. Who wouldn’t love breakfast?!

I wanted to quickly share a practice that I’ve been preaching to myself. I call it “being my own therapist.” Now what I mean by this is: not letting your feelings dictate your identity. Feelings are feelings, and they can often deceive us from remembering the truth about ourselves. I do believe that they can sometimes be indicators of how we are really doing, but sometimes, feelings are straight up lies!

Many times, I will wake up in the morning, and I will feel “fat.” I can’t be the only one, right? I hate that I feel that about myself! Intellectually I know that this is not the case, but how come sometimes I just feel that way?! During these vulnerable moments when I am staring in the mirror, I try to be my own therapist. I’ll ask myself, “Why do I feel this way?” And then, I’ll have the internal dialogue with myself:

Is it true? No, it is not. Eann, you are not fat. You are strong. You are capable. You are beautiful. God loves you. He made you in His image. You are worthy.

Now, this isn’t always an instant solution to that feeling of not feeling worthy, but it is a start. I think it is so important to engage with our feelings. This doesn’t mean letting them dictate who we are, but having a dialogue with ourselves can be extremely powerful. It can help us to separate truth from emotions, which can be mutually exclusive.

The next time you feel “weird,” “icky,” jealous, impatient, angry, rather than being controlled by that feeling, try pausing and asking yourself “Why do I feel this way?” Are you jealous that you didn’t get invited to a party, because you are longing for friendship? Are you feeling “gross” because you haven’t been taking care of yourself? Are you impatient, because you haven’t been able to recharge? These are all great questions to ask yourself, and may even help identify the deeper root to many of your emotions.